Relation Rules Inside, Outside, Side By Side (Romans 12: 9-21) 8/28/11

RELATIONSHIP RULES INSIDE, OUTSIDE, SIDE BY SIDE

Romans 12: 9-21, Psalm 105: 1-6

8/28/2011

In Romans, Paul has been talking about living in Christ; about entry into God’s family as co-heirs with Christ;  about the Holy Spirit interceding for us; about Providence; that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”  Paul says confess out loud that Jesus is Lord, and believe that God raised Him bodily from the dead. That is the Gospel in a nutshell.

       We are called upon to be transformed into new persons that reject the patterns our world has set for us; to seek and develop our spiritual gifts. Our efforts in the church as Christ’s body help complete our transformation. Our act of spiritual worship is our act of becoming Christian.  “Real worship is the offering of everyday life to him.”

Paul mentions seven Spiritual gifts specifically, but his list is only representative of many gifts. They are our charisma, the gifts which we could not have acquired or attained by ourselves. Every body part has a function, usually performed with many other body parts. The church works the same way. Church is ecclesia; the gathering of God’s people. In it are many functions, and it takes the whole body to make it all work. Paul exhorts us to live our Christianity, to discover our spiritual gifts and to be members of the Body of Christ in all that we do, all that we say, all that we are!

In the first half of Romans 12, Paul asks us to present ourselves for worship as living sacrifices. In verses 9-13, he gives ten rules for our relationships with other Christians. Let’s take a look at Paul’s 10 Be’s:

·        Be sincere

·        Be intolerant of evil and cling to the good

·        Be devoted to one another

·        Be honorable to others

·        Be zealous in serving God

·        Be joyful in hope

·        Be patient in affliction

·        Be faithful in prayer

·        Be a sharer with the needy

·        Be hospitable.

Notice that we have just finished discussing spiritual gifts and the                  concept of one body and many parts, when Paul takes time out to talk about love. If this seems familiar, it is. It is not only the pattern for Romans 12, but also for 1^st Corinthians 12 and 13. The conduct of believers is draped in love. How do you do love? Hate evil for one thing. When you cling to what is good, you have no time to court evil. How do you live love? Be devoted. Honor one another. Serve God zealously so as not to fall back from your commitment. Such zeal will spawn the joyful hope, the patience in affliction and the faithful prayer life that reinforces that “living in love” that our Lord requires.  

The last two Be’s are both about sharing. One is with the needy and speaks to those around us who have unmet needs. The other has to do with sharing also, but probably speaks to strangers and travelers. Sharing and hospitality are part of the root system of Christianity. The Scottish theologian William Barclay calls Christianity the religion of the open hand, the open heart, and the open door.  

In verses 14-16, with one prefatory exception referring to blessing those who persecute us, Paul lays out rules and principles for relationships to neighbors and friends:

·        Bless those who persecute you

·        Be happy with the happy, sad with the sad

·        Live in harmony with one another

·        Get rid of pride and snobbishness

In America, we have little to fear from persecution for our beliefs. It wasn’t always so. The last fifty years has seen wholesale change in our responses to race and gender issues. The fact that Americans enjoy a measure of freedom unlike that of much of the world should make us empathetic with countries like Egypt and Tunisia and Libya whose rebel forces have spent this year overthrowing century old regimes of despots who have no interest whatsoever in personal freedom. In those countries, people are beginning to speak up for the first time in their lives. Just this week, I watched a 42 year old man in Tripoli being interviewed by a reporter. He said that this was the first time in his life that he could use the word “freedom” out loud without fear of reprisal. 

Ever notice that sharing the joy of another is sometimes a little tricky? It’s easy enough to share in sorrow, but not so easy to share in one’s success. Sometimes it comes off looking like envy, or mooching, and yet Paul calls on us to share not only in sorrow, but also in the success of others.

Living in harmony with one another probably speaks to maintaining peace in the church. The church is a melting pot of ideas, of passions and worship styles as we seek collectively to serve our Lord.  The recent actions of our own denomination in passing new ordination standards that appear to open the door to ordination of gays is a case in point. As we go forward, that harmony which Paul speaks to will be challenged as congregations and presbyteries struggle with the application of this new standard.

Finally, in this category dealing with relationships with neighbors and friends, Paul cautions us to get rid of our pride, to lay down our conceit, even to be willing to associate with people and jobs outside our comfort zone.  In the early days of Christianity, it is said that the Church was the only place where master and slave sat side by side. God will not judge us by our standards, but by his. Saintliness has nothing to do with success or money or social rank. Paul rightly points to the Church as the only place where earthly distinctions are of no importance.  

In the last verses (17-21), Paul instructs us on how to handle our relationships with those outside the church:

·        Conduct ourselves fairly for all to see

·        Live in peace with all

·        Keep away from taking revenge

Everything in these exhortations speaks of tolerance. Be fair to all.

Live in peace with all. Let your behavior and your actions be a witness to your beliefs. Be tolerant in the bad acts of others. Leave it for God to deal with such behavior. These are noble and exemplary aspirations, but difficult to put into practice. This very week, I was challenged personally in my application of this principle. As some of you know, I am also a landlord. We had to get rid of some bad tenants. We did, but they certainly made us pay for that action. They left our lovely little rental house in a total shambles. It will be costly to return it to fitness as a rental property. I spent some time cursing the day we ever became landlords and much more. I thought about how much I wanted to let this tenant have a piece of my mind. And then I thought about how Paul commands us here to be tolerant and to leave the vengeance to God. I also thought of how it would look to others if a man charged with witnessing the Gospel can’t follow this advice. I have to get on with my life and pray for these tenants. This is my witness this week.   Think of how those outside the church will take note as they watch us in our Christian walk. And they do watch!  

But note this well. Paul says to live in peace with everyone as far as it depends on you. There may be times when the actions of others go so far as to cause Christians to have to stand on principle. This does not give us cause to retaliate, which Paul reminds us to leave in God’s hands, but rather to hold fast to our spiritual ground. There are core beliefs, core values which we know as Christians. Tolerance does not include compromising those values. The Expositor’s Bible Commentary says it this way: “Each situation that holds prospect for a witness to the world should be weighed so that the action taken will not bring unfavorable reflection on the Gospel.”

I think this is particularly hard on teens today. Peer pressure is a tough thing to resist, and unfortunately, middle and high school are the laboratories where our character is constantly tested at a time in our lives when we have little experience with which to handle such pressure. It might sound cliché, but it is true nevertheless, that parents and grandparents have to be that cloud of witnesses that surrounds our youth with positive example. Take time to eat the evening meal together. Always pray at meals. Make room for nightly devotions. Keep the reading of scripture as part of your daily regimen. Parents, know where your children are and who they are with. When someone does challenge your belief system, show your children that your Christianity is a lifestyle and not just an opinion.

          I think that what Paul has done here in Chapter 12 of Romans is the same thing that he did in writing to a troubled church in Corinth. He takes time out from espousing doctrine and reminds us very beautifully and practically of love, God’s love and the love we grow in ourselves as we walk down the road of Sanctification. Here, Paul shows us what it looks like to be consecrated as Christians. He paints for us a picture of the person who is engaged in living out that Christianity at home, in the neighborhood, at church with other Christians, and in the workplace as well. This is the inside, the outside and the side by side of the Christian rules of relationships.

          Let me leave you with a story that A.B. Simpson relates in his Bible Commentary. Once upon a time, there was a willow tree growing in a garden. The willow simply would not grow branches on one side. All the efforts of the gardener in pruning and trimming were to no avail. The tree continued to grow, but in a distorted and lopsided condition. Finally, it occurred to the gardener to look beneath what he could see on the surface. He investigated. He dug down with his spade and, wouldn’t you know, he found a little stream on the side where the branches were growing. Then he knew why the tree did so well on one side. It did well on the side where it got attention and nourishment. The gardener, being a wise man and good at his craft, effected a cure. He dug a little channel on the barren side of the tree, allowing the stream to irrigate that side as well. You can imagine the result. It wasn’t long before the barren side of that willow tree responded to the nourishment afforded by the gardener’s care.

          Are our lives so different from the willow tree? Do we not respond to that which gives us attention, those who nourish us? The last verse in today’s lesson is Paul’s remedy for evil: “Overcome evil with good.” Weed out the evil by digging down just a little deeper to let God irrigate that barren side with his stream of light and goodness. Evil will be like the weed that was choked out by good gardening. Paul reminds us that we really don’t have to fight evil as much as we have to respond to all things with Christian love. That will fill our spiritual garden with the perfect mix. Overcome evil with good, inside, outside, side by side!

Let us pray.     

Pistis (Gal. 5: 22-25) 9/16/12

A quick look at the words faith, faithful, faithfulness indicates their use in either Hebrew or Greek some 337 times in the Bible, give or take a few. Paul uses one of these three words 127 times. That makes faith or some derivation of it one of the most worked nouns in the Scriptures. By that measurement alone, it would behoove us to know what the word means and how it is used. For starters, pistis is the Greek word for faithfulness and it is roughly synonymous with both belief and trust. If we looked up those words, I suspect we could add several hundred more references. Faithfulness: the act of being faithful. Let’s see, faithful is the adjective that modifies faith, so it must mean having faith. So there we are! All we have to do now is understand what faith means. Then we can get some and act on it and we will have faithfulness.

So what is faith? We’ve been down this road before. Remember? The writer of Hebrews tells us that “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (11:1). It almost sounds like doublespeak, but listen carefully, because it isn’t. The substance of things hoped for. Substance implies something tangible, something you can get your arms around, whether it is a thought or a thing. It’s real and substantial. That’s what this Scripture is getting at, that faith is a substance. It is something you can get your arms around. Faith is real and substantial. It isn’t a thing you can stick in your pocket, but it is a thought you can carry in your heart and mind and it’s just as real as the keys jingling in your pocket. So…now we know that faith is sort of like the meat on the bones of hope. But we still don’t exactly see how to put it to use. We need to do something with these things we hope for, don’t we?

Like all the other fruits we have studied, faith is of little good sitting on a shelf in our hearts. We have to get it down and take it for a walk out here in the world. How do we do faith? Well, that same writer of Hebrews gives us some examples from history. He chronicles a hall of faith. Abraham obeyed God’s call and “went out, not knowing where he was going” (v. 8). He did it on faith. He offered up his own son as a sacrifice to God, raised his knife to cut the throat of his beloved son and only withdrew upon the command of God’s angel. He did that on faith, too.  The list in Hebrews 11 covers an assortment of the faithful men and women who answered God’s call, starting with Abel and going all the way through the prophets of old. For their trouble, they were rewarded with mocking and flogging, chains and imprisonment, torture, stoning, destitution, affliction, homelessness and even death.

There is a good side to this hit parade of the faithful, Hebrews tells us also that these faithful “conquered kingdoms, enforced justice… stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight and last, but not least, were made strong out of weakness” (v. 33, 34).

Though their faith was certainly commendable and their lives made the better for their efforts, none of the witnesses—Hebrews calls them a “cloud of witnesses”-- mentioned in Hebrews received what was promised. They went to their graves believing…being faithful to the cause… without the proof of the pudding. They saw preliminary glimpses of what was to come, but like Moses gazing across the Jordan while he stayed back as his people crossed the river, they did not taste the promise fulfilled. That was for later. The New Covenant was going to be fulfilled and something better was coming. The cloud of witnesses had faith in the promise.

So even though it sounds like we’re going in a circle, having faithfulness really is being faithful. But being faithful is no easy chore. And what we are faithful to is going to make all the difference. We learn about being faithful to God through our earthly relationships. Are you faithful to your spouse? To your children? Are you faithful to those for whom you work? For those who work for you? Are you faithful and reliable in your dealings with others? In all these ways, we learn the meaning of being faithful. Put another way, you might say that being faithful is being trustworthy and reliable. Are you faithful in the little things as well as the big ones? In Luke’s gospel, Jesus cautions his disciples that dishonesty in the little things is the seed of bigger dishonesty. If you can’t be faithful in the wealth that comes from the things of the earth, don’t expect God to entrust you to the true riches of the kingdom. Jesus says we cannot serve two masters. We can’t serve both God and money (16:13). The Greek word here for money is mamona, which also translates as mammon or riches. The point goes beyond financial wealth. If you choose to serve God, you are also choosing to let nothing else take priority over that commitment. This does not mean that you neglect your family or your work. It means just the opposite. It means that in all your dealing, you bring your Christian beliefs to the table.

Think about your life. How do your children think of you? How does your boss think of you? How does your spouse think of you? How does your church think of you? Are you trustworthy? Are you reliable? This is the way you live out your faithfulness. This is what God wants from us. This is part and parcel of the fruit of the Spirit. Our Lord gives it first to us. We only return to him that faithfulness which has first been extended to us. God is our model. The Psalmist reminds us that the “the word of the Lord is upright, and all his work is done in faithfulness” (Ps. 34).

Since this a Sunday we set aside to celebrate the presence and contributions of the older adults among us, I want to mention just a few older adults in the Scriptures. Moses comes to mind, He stood poised to take over the reigns of Egypt at the age of 40, but God had other plans for him. That’s not so unusual but the story gets better. At the age of 80, God called Moses back into service to lead the Israelites from the slavery of Egypt. Moses continued to lead God’s people for another forty years to the ripe old age of 120 before he handed over the reins to Joshua, his general who was probably mature enough to handle it since he was 80 years old. Bear in mind that the story of God’s chosen people begins with Abraham and Sarah. Abraham has no children until he is about 100 years old. He has Isaac through Sarah when she is 90. The pregnancy of Sarah is so unlikely that Sarah laughs at the angel of God when she hears that she will conceive a child. In commemoration of this, their son is named Isaac, which means “laughter.” The apostle Paul didn’t even take his first missionary journey until well into his forties. The Bible is full of examples of persons whose greatest contributions came in their senior years.  

Thomas Obadiah Chisholm was born in a log cabin in Franklin, Kentucky in 1866, only a year after the end of the Civil War. By the time he was sixteen years old, he was teaching school. Eleven years later, he was converted to Christianity at a revival. He served one year as a Methodist minister, but had to resign for health reasons. He took up selling insurance, but he had a yen for poetry. Over the course of his life, he wrote over twelve hundred sacred poems. He sent one of those poems to a friend at the Moody Bible Institute. His friend William Runyan wrote the music to go with the poem and it was published. We know it as Great is Thy Faithfulness. Chisholm’s most famous poem was written in his fifties when he was apparently long removed from ministry. We sing it today as do many churches around the world. The chorus is a famous litany of faith:

                   Great is thy faithfulness,

great is thy faithfulness,

                   Morning by morning

new mercies I see;

                   All I have needed

Thy hand hath provided—

                   Great is thy faithfulness,

Lord, unto me.

As we go about our daily tasks, though they may be boring, though they may have been done ten thousand times before, though we may feel that they could not possibly have anything to do with the kingdom of God, let us give pause. It is not only what we do, but also the way we do it, that witnesses to the Lord and to his people. Are you being faithful?

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness…

Agathosyne (Gal. 5:22-25, Psalm 23) 9/9/12

In the 1950’s and 60’s, General Mills was king of the cereal makers. It had cornflakes and cheerios and boasted a pretty “G” in the upper corner of the box and that stood for General Mills. The ad slogan was “The big G stands for goodness.” Remember? Wouldn’t that be nice, if all we had to do was buy the right cereal and we would be filled with goodness.

          He’s a good man. She’s a good woman. I just wanna have a good time. Goody two shoes. Good job. Good food. Good night! The good, the bad and the ugly.  It’s been a good day. You’re a good friend. And the list goes on and on…and on. Good has more meanings and shades of meanings than you can shake a stick at. We all recognize an element within this word that we like, an element that we respect and desire. Good. It’s in food and cereal boxes and toothpaste and the workplace. It’s in books and literature, church and playgrounds. It’s the stuff of heroes but it’s also in the smallest corner of your home. Good. What does it mean? Is it so broad that it cannot be defined? Is it so deep that it cannot be confined, corralled, converted to some specific meaning? I don’t think so. I think that good is so easy to understand within our working knowledge that we instinctively know what it means. Good is hard to capture, elusive to define, but easy to spot. 

In the very first chapter of the very first book of the Old Testament, God creates. God creates and creates. For a whole God week, he creates and every time he does, he stands back, looks it over and calls it what? He calls it good. He saw that it was good. God saw that the light was good (1:4). God separated Earth from the Seas and saw that it was good (1:9). The earth brings forth vegetation and fruit bearing trees and God saw that it was good (1:12). The story of creation goes on—the setting of the sun, the moon and the stars into the heavens—and God saw that it was good (1:18). On the fifth day come sea creatures and birds. God saw that it was good and blessed them. Day six brought the jewels in the crown of creation. First, God created land creatures and creeping things and God saw that it was good (1:25).  Then man and woman were created in God’s image and God blessed them, commissioned them and gave them dominion over all the rest. The book of Genesis says that “God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good” (1:31).

Are you starting to get the picture? It helps me to see what God calls good. It helps me to understand something about his standards. Granted, they are Godly standards, but also granted that the Book of Genesis tells us that we were made in God’s image! Surely if we are created in his image, he meant us for good.

What does goodness look like? Ask Joseph. He went from being Jacob’s favorite son to running the kingdom of Egypt at the right hand of Pharaoh and his route included a nice prison stretch where he had no right to hope for anything more than a merciful death. But when his brothers stood before him, he explained to them that the evil they might have meant for him was all part of a Godly plan to save many lives. Being good looks like Joseph.

What does goodness feel like? Ask Barnabas. He was “let go” by Paul in a fit of temper because he would not betray young John Mark. He was the godly man left out of the equation by the Thirteenth Apostle. And yet, the eleventh chapter of Acts calls Barnabas a good man, full of the Holy Spirit. He was instrumental in reconnecting Paul with Mark, and then Paul with himself. Being good feels like Barnabas.

What does goodness taste like? It tastes alive! The fifth chapter of Amos tells us that you must “Seek the Lord that you may live.” Later in the chapter, the prophet tells God’s people that they should “seek good, and not evil, that you may live.” How do we live by seeking the Lord? We do it by seeking good. God is synonymous with good. To seek God is to seek goodness!  It’s the taste that satisfies and leaves you hungry too. Only God can satisfy your appetite and leave you hungry at the same time. Good is as simple as doing something unselfishly for someone else, and it tastes better than a gourmet meal. 

Good is connected to time; time to do good. Good is disconnected from time, because you don’t look at your watch or your calendar when something good is coming from you. You take whatever time it requires. Like God has done for you.

We have talked about what goodness looks like, feels like, tastes like. How do we do it? How do you do goodness? In the gospel of Luke, a rich young ruler comes to Jesus and calls him “good Teacher.” Some translations say Master, but I like “good Teacher” here. Jesus asks him: “Why do you call me good? No one is good, except God alone.” Third John 11 says it in a way that I get. There, John says that we are imitators. We either imitate evil or we imitate good. Now that’s a load. What it implies is that we are not evil, but that we imitate it; that we are not good, but we imitate it. John says: “Whoever does good is from God.” Another translation says that whoever does good is of God. We are not inherently good. Quite the contrary. It is the great inheritance of the Reformation and John Calvin that we understand ourselves to be totally depraved, incapable of goodness in and of ourselves. Yes, good is in us, but not of us. When we see good, feel good, do good, it is from God; it is of God.

How do we do goodness? John tells us how. We do that which is good because the Spirit of God is moving within us, whether or not we give him the credit! Sometimes we imitate God in spite of ourselves. The apostle Paul reminds us in Ephesians 4 that we express goodness by telling the truth, by not stealing, by doing useful, helpful, beneficial things, by keeping sin out of our anger. As we imitate God and Christ, we begin to show that image in which we were made. We begin to live in Christ and we allow Christ to live in us.

What is goodness? Goodness is living for others, living to serve rather than be served. Way back in Genesis, we watched as Joseph took hit after hit for the team. He was the one God picked out to look out for the many. This concept of the one for the many is not just for Joseph.

Throughout history, people have stood up in war and peace for

principle, for family, for country, for their fellow man, for God. Remember that fellow from Galilee with all those fishermen friends? He was the one, the one who laid it all down for the many. He was goodness personified. But you know what? I just get the impression that even if there was only one to die for, he would have done the same thing. God is so good. He’s so good…to me!

The final words of the Twenty Third Psalm have been the promise to God’s people all the way back to the reign of David. “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.” We need to claim that promise. Let God be good to you!

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness…

CHRESTOTES (Galatians 5: 22-25) 9/2/12

It’s part of the Boy Scout law. I must have said it a thousand times or more as a teenager. “A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind…” I don’t think Paul was a Boy Scout, but his list of nine virtues comprising the fruit of the Spirit isn’t far off from the Boy Scout law. As to kindness, or chrestotes, as is its Greek counterpart, well, it’s number 5 on Paul’s list and second on the list of  outer character traits which will help to create and nurture the love, joy and peace that start the list.

          When I was young, every Thursday evening for several years found me in a garage building outside my church. In the summer, there was no circulation and it was hot. In the winter, there was a kerosene heater up front that was good for the first row. I don’t remember ever sitting on the first row. I do remember that grown men were there and they took it all very seriously, even that kindness thing. Every week, some scout was called on at random to stand and tell of the good deed that he had done that day. You see, that is the Boy Scout motto: “Do a good turn daily.” I grew up learning that being kind is part of being a Boy Scout. Scouting is close to my heart, and I learned to practice kindness.

In Paul’s day, he did not have the luxury of starting with eleven year old boys whose parents had sent them to be mentored. He had to start with us big kids and we are a whole lot more trouble and a whole lot more prejudiced. They were then, too. The book of Galatians was primarily written to a group who had already strayed from the truth that Paul had taught them. One gospel, he said. Salvation by grace through faith, he said. Adopted just as if we were born to it, he said.

          After all the chastising, Paul throws his arms around us and says that we need to be kind, that it is part of all that good fruit that the Spirit brings to us. This is golden rule stuff. Do unto others, remember? It is that divine kindness, that “God is so good to me” kindness out of which God acts toward mankind. It’s the kind of “kindness” that Paul uses to describe God in Ephesians 2 when he talks about God’s love, manifested in his kindness, by sending Jesus to redeem us.

          Kindness. Dr. Theodore Rubin says its more important that wisdom, so important that just the recognition of this fact is indeed the beginning of wisdom. Why is kindness so important? It’s an attribute of God! In Romans 2:4, Paul tells us that God’s kindness is meant to lead us to repentance. In Romans 11:22, comparing fallen Jews to converted Gentiles, Paul says that God is kind to those who believe, to those who continue in his kindness. In Ephesians 2, Paul talks again about grace through faith, about believers being seated in the heavenly places and being shown the “immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.” Finally, in Titus 3:4, we are reminded that we were saved when “the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared.” Why is kindness so important? It’s an attribute of God!

          Why is kindness so important? It’s an attribute for Christians! “Love is patient and kind,” says Paul in 1 Corinthians 13: 4. In Colossians 3: 12, Paul talks about putting on a new self and this includes kindness.  And there is my personal favorite, Ephesians 4:32:  “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” There that’s golden rule again.

          Remember senior superlatives in high school. Chances are one or you was voted friendliest or smartest or most likely to succeed or prettiest by your senior class. I sort of like the idea, but I would like to change list to most gentle, most humble, most courteous, most kind-things like that. Wouldn’t it be cool to be voted kindest!

I like the Greek word for kindness. It’s a sweet word. In fact, that is one of the shades of its meaning: sweetness. Old wine is called chrestos. Think mellow.  In Matthew 11: 30, Christ’s yoke is called chrestos, meaning that it does not chafe. Chrestos has only one function  according to Dr. William Barclay, the Scottish theologian. It can only help. I think I also like it because it sounds so close to Christos, the Greek word for Christ. When I think of my Savior, kindness is one of the first words that come to mind to describe him. Christos is Chrestos.

Let me share a story with you written by Sherman Buford. Mr. Altar’s fifth-grade class at Lake Elementary School in Oceanside, California, included fourteen boys who had no hair. Only one, however, had no choice in the matter. In an Associated Press story that broke in March, 1994, a youngster named Ian O’Gorman was undergoing chemotherapy for lymphoma and was facing the unpleasant prospect of having his hair fall out in clumps as a result of the treatments. To avoid some embarrassment, he had his head shaved. Then something very nice happened. Something very kind happened. All his classmates shaved their heads as well, so Ian wouldn’t feel out of place. It only took one kid. Ten-year-old Kyle Hanslik started it all. He talked to some of the other boys, and it wasn’t long until all thirteen boys took off to the barbershop together. “We just wanted to make him feel better,” said Kyle. You think?  My wife has an old high school friend named Cindy. Cindy has had several bouts with cancer. The first time she went through chemotherapy, her hair began to come out. The minute it started, her husband Dennis pulled a Kyle and had his head shaved. Cindy is still around years later and I have no doubt that some of the credit has to go to a kind and loving husband whose vanity had no place in that marriage.

Now, this kindness thing can get to be a habit. When you do things for others, it makes you feel good. When I was eleven years old, it was my job as a Boy Scout. I wanted to be ready every Thursday night in case I was called on. Today, it’s sort of a hobby. It’s very contagious. If you haven’t tried it, you should.

By the way, kindness is one of those fruits. You know, the fruit of the Spirit. It is one of the ways to replace that emptiness you sometimes feel coming on.  Just reach out and touch someone, like the phone people say. And remember, there really is only one way to live by the Spirit. Walk by it!  

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness…