In the eleventh chapter of Luke, we find Luke’s version of the Lord’s Prayer. It is a prayer that he taught to his disciples and might be better understood as the Disciples Prayer. It is a model prayer meant to guide us into both worship and intercession. It is a prayer we learn early and say often. It acknowledges God as our father and our sovereign. It calls for God’s rule both here and now and in the consummation of the kingdom. It petitions for sustenance, for forgiveness and for the strength not to fall away in times of trial. The use of the pronoun “us” seems to imply that the prayer is not just for each of us, but even more for us as a community of faith.
Then Jesus tells a parable. It is found only in Luke’s gospel. It is complicated, but its lesson is simple. To better understand the parable, we need to know something about Palestinian homes of Jesus’ time. But first, let’s put the scene in a contemporary setting.
Last week, three of our grown children and our grandchild came home for the weekend and my wife’s friend from college also flew in for a few days. We had to borrow a blow-up mattress from our neighbor in order to provide everyone with a bed to sleep in. Our neighbor was glad to accommodate us, but imagine if, instead of asking in advance, we knocked on his door at midnight on Friday night. Our neighbor most likely would not have been so accommodating. Imagine that I just kept on knocking until I woke him up and then wouldn’t leave until he found his portable mattress all properly stored away and put it in my hands. I’m thinking that our friendship might have been stretched to the limit.
Jesus talks in Luke 11 about friendship and hospitality. A friend comes visiting late at night. The host is caught unprepared. In first century Palestine , it was not unusual to travel at night to avoid the scorching heat of the day and time of day didn’t matter when it came to hospitality. It was the custom of the day to always be prepared for visitors. It was the sacred duty of the host to be ready to extend hospitality and to do so with abundance.
Confronted with the inability to perform his sacred duty, the host goes to his neighbor. Even though it is midnight, he would rather prevail upon his friend nearby than to forego his duty as a host. The neighbor says “the door is now shut and my children are with me in bed.” It helps to understand this in context. In first century Palestine , doors to dwellings stayed open all day. Privacy was non-existent. But at day’s end, the door closed. Quite often, the hens and the goats were taken inside the house as well. The home usually consisted of one room with a dirt floor. About a third of the floor was raised and upon this a charcoal fire was built. The entire family slept close together on mats near the fire, because nights are cold in that part of the world. So, when the neighbor said that his children were in bed with him, he was being literal. To get up was to roust the family and the small livestock which had all settled in for the night.
Of course, the host knew this situation and knocked anyway. He not only knocked; he continued to knock until the door was opened. The ESV says he was impudent. Perhaps a more accurate characterization of this term would be to understand our host as shamelessly bold or persistent. He had a duty to perform and he could not do it without the help of his friend and neighbor. So he persisted until the neighbor came to his aid. Jesus goes on to say that the neighbor performs not because of the friendship, but because of the persistence of the host who knocks at his door.
At first reading, it would seem that our task as Christians might be to persist in prayer until we are heard, for this passage, after all, is still about prayer. But Luke’s meaning may be more subtle than that. Yes, we are exhorted to be boldly persistent in our prayer life with God, but we should understand that here Jesus is saying that we can take anything before God in prayer; that God is more gracious and more caring than any neighbor—even a neighbor who eventually comes to our aid. This parable has parallel tracks. Parable means “to lie alongside of” and this is a good example. We see a good result in this story of neighbor helping neighbor. One person reacts to another’s need. Jesus uses this to illustrate how much more our Heavenly Father will care and meet our needs than this earthly response!
Jesus then turns to the famous phrase, “Ask…seek …and knock.” In the Greek language, all three words are verbs in the imperative. In other words, they are spoken as commands. These requests then point out what an earthly father might do. If even sinful men can act with love, how much more will the Lord do for his people? Jesus promises that everyone who asks receives, that the one who seeks finds, that to the one who knocks it will be opened. But for what shall we ask? For whom and what shall we seek? When we knock, on whose door are we knocking?
Part of the lesson here is our need to pray. It can be compared to the need of the host to do his duty to his traveling friend. He had a great need and he boldly persisted with his neighbor until he could meet that need. In a similar fashion, we must recognize our need to pray. When the need is real to us, we will be boldly persistent about our prayer life. This need for persistence in praying is not God’s need, it is ours. Neither is the persistence to be seen as constantly praying for one thing, but rather for God’s presence, for God’s guidance, for God’s Spirit to be present in our lives. If we pray boldly and with passion for God’s will to be done, we can pray with confidence of the result.
The end of the passage finds Jesus asking a “how much more” question again. Luke uses this device to compare and contrast what God can do as opposed to the limits we have as humans. Jesus guides us in our directions to ask, seek and knock. If sinful people can give good gifts to their children, and we all know they certainly can, then how much more will our heavenly Father do?
More important is the nature of the gift promised here by our heavenly Father. Jesus promises us the Father’s gift of the Holy Spirit to those of us who ask him. It is the answer to our prayer, but it is God’s answer. What is promised is not prosperity or wealth or even health, but instead the gift of the Holy Spirit. The real answer to all our asking, the true destination to all our seeking, the final entry to the door of our knocking is the gift of the Holy Spirit. It is in this way that God answers every prayer. He comes to us with the gift of himself. William Barclay puts it this way: “We are not wringing gifts from an unwilling God, but going to one who knows our needs better than we know them ourselves and whose heart toward us is the heart of generous love. If we do not receive what we pray for, it is not because God grudgingly refuses to give it but because he has some better thing for us.”
There is no such thing as unanswered prayer. But in our prayer, as Jesus taught us, we need to discern who is in charge. We need to ask for the right things, such as God’s will in our lives. We need to seek the right directions, and then and only then can we end up at the right door, so that when we knock, it will be opened to find God on the other side. If we seek God, we will find him and we will find him waiting with a full measure of the Holy Spirit as a house-warming gift. And unlike the host with an empty larder, we will never find him unprepared.