Learning to Lament
2 Samuel 1:1, 17-27
I have read the
commentaries about David’s lament. They explain that the book of Jashar was a
book of important songs and poems that has not survived. That this lament was
contained in it is not disputed, but the book was lost to us long ago. The commentaries note that David wanted the
people of Judah to be taught about the lives of Saul and Jonathan, that they
should be taught his lament in order to remember them.
So this passage is called
David’s lament, a strikingly secular poem which never mentions Gods’ name, nor
does it mention any elements of Israel’s faith.
So why is it suggested in the Book
of Common Worship that this text be used as the source of a message?
There is a reason that this passage
is in the Bible. Many might say it is there because it was important to see the
many talents of David, or so that the customs of the people of that time could
be observed. Maybe it revealed something new about Saul and Jonathan. All these
statements are true, but I don’t think that even collectively they are enough.
The Bible doesn’t have “extra.” Everything there, every word, has the potential
to reveal God’s truth. What is in this poem that we need to know?
David says that Israel’s glory lies
dead in its high places. Israels’s glory here is her king now slain. I think
David is saying what many of us felt when John Kennedy was assassinated or when
the twin towers came down. Someone hurt us and hurt us badly. It’s sad beyond
words.
He says don’t tell it
in the cities of the Philistines. Don’t tell it where people can gloat and
misinterpret the news. Keep it “in house” and let’s mourn on our own. It is
understood that the defeat represents not Philistine victory, but disobedience
to God.
David goes on. No rain,
no offerings. The best of us was offered and it was found lacking. We have been
defiled, embarrassed in this loss and the sting is bitter. They fought, and
they stood, but they were not enough. It hurts to know such loss.
In the next two stanzas,
David talks about the strength and unity of these fallen warriors. Then he
encourages the people to cry. He tells the daughters of Israel to cry over
their fallen leader. The new leader and future king is giving the people
permission to express their grief.
Then, in one of the most
tender expressions of loving friendship and respect in all the Bible, David
talks personally of his friend Jonathan. Their relationship was deep,
covenantal, and David is wounded to his core. In this extraordinary admission,
he says the love of these two men for one another was greater than even that of
a man for a woman. There is nothing sexual about this admission. It is the
disclosure of how intimate true friendship can become.
Three times in this
lament, David says this term: “How the mighty have fallen.” He seems to be
observing and asking simultaneously. “How the mighty have fallen.” Perhaps
young David, already a veteran of many battles, is foreshadowing his own
troubles to come. Perhaps he is already feeling the loneliness of leadership.
David sees clearly that kingship is no guarantee to safety. Whatever he is
thinking, David shows us that he hurts as deeply as anyone, grieves as publicly
as anyone and is not ashamed to invite his people to grieve with him.
Do you remember where you
were when those planes hit the towers on 9/11? Do you remember your reaction?
As the stories of heroism and loss began to come in, do you remember how you
felt? I think I shook as though it were happening to me. And in a very real sense,
it was. When loss is profound, as it is in the case of a lost leader or loved
one, it is personal and it is the kind of loss that future king David was
saying to us: Grieve! Cry! Hold each other and express your loss. It is not
weak. Rather, it shows your humanity.
C. S. Lewis was one of
the most famous Christian writers of the twentieth century. A great mind, he
sought to discredit Christianity and on the way through that process, he was
converted. Later in life, he had a short marriage of four years. His wife had
cancer. It eventually took her life. Lewis was devastated. He devoted an entire
book to that chapter in his life. The book was called A Grief Observed. Here is one of the things Lewis said about his
experience.
God has not been trying an experiment on
my faith or love
in order to find out their quality.
He knew it already. It was
I who didn't. In this trial He makes
us occupy the dock, the
witness box, and the bench all at once. He
always knew that
my temple was a house of cards. His
only way of making
Lewis is reminding us that there will
come a time for each of us when our faith is tested, when our belief system is
shaken to the root. For Lewis, as it was for David, we must not only observe
that grief; we must understand that much of grieving is not meant to be
private. Sometimes, we must cry as a people or as a church or as a nation. The
loss of nine Christians to senseless tragedy at Emmanuel AME Zion Church in
Charleston on June 17th is such a loss--a public loss of such
magnitude that all Christians grieve.
In this poem of lament by David, we
are reminded that such is exactly the task to which we should be about. If we
can celebrate our victories, we can also mourn our losses. Grief has its
private moments, but it also has a public face.
“How the mighty have fallen,”
said David. How we grieve in such loss. So David grieved, and then he went up
to Hebron and was anointed king of Judah. So it is with our Savior. How Jesus
suffered on that cross! And how his disciples grieved that loss. So Jesus was
dead and buried, and then he arose from the dead to sit on the right hand of
God!
So maybe that’s why David’s lament
appears here in 2nd Samuel. Hr reminds us to give life to our grief/
Grieving should be observed. It’s part of healing. And for Christians, we only fall
to rise again.